Okay, quick update.
Brilliant help and advice from Denz0.
He recommended a slightly lowered YSS shock for the front as standard shock is unservicable. For the rear, a strip down and service together with a new slightly lower uprated spring more suitable for my weight.
I can't beleive the difference in the way the bike feels and I can now get both feet on the ground at the same time!
Side stand is fine and getting it onto the main stand is okay but I have sourced a standard GS stand with the help of another member of this forum so will be changing to that one when I minute or two to sort.
I cannot recommend Denz0 enough for his help and brilliant service, a true gent.