So I got the wife's opinion tonight after dark, followed the car for a start and pulled over for comment- 'ridiculous, like someone put the light on in the car and still blinding in a dipped mirror' Hmmmm.
I should point out here that I though my headlight was set a little high already- so no worries, flick the headlight adjustment switch down and try again.
Perfect, I didnt really notice any major difference in the light throw, a follow run and two oncoming passes and the opinion changed completely. 'very cool, you don't know what it is that's coming towards you' So no dazzle, nobody flashing me and to prove a point I flashed the standard main beam and that blinded the poor girl.
Once again thanks to Mick, I'm more than pleased and amazed with how much light you can get off a bike without being a nuisance to other road users.