Why Do I Feel Guilty?

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A good mate was killed in an RTA in 1973. He was only 18. I still keep in touch with his family and think of George often. The anniversary of his death was two days ago.

I've been a bit fluey and off work and this is the only reason that I can think of. But I forgot about his anniversary. Totally. I'd remembered earlier in the week and then on Wednesday, it slipped my mind. The first time ever.

I don't suppose that it'll make much odds to George but I feel really guilty.

How daft is that? :blast
 
It's not daft at all, it's human nature at work.

Had you remembered what would have done to make the situ any different?:nenau
 
harry said:
It's not daft at all, it's human nature at work.

Had you remembered what would have done to make the situ any different?:nenau
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Absolutely nothing but stupidly, I feel a bit disrespectful to his memory. Daft I know...
 
We used to head for a Bothy to remember a good mate, don’t do it anymore and it does somehow feel a tad disrespectful. :(
Then I think of the guy we were remembering n he wouldn’t have given a flying fcuk. :D
Raise a glass to George tonight, I will. :thumb2
 
G.C. said:
We used to head for a Bothy to remember a good mate, don’t do it anymore and it does somehow feel a tad disrespectful. :(
Then I think of the guy we were remembering n he wouldn’t have given a flying fcuk. :D
Raise a glass to George tonight, I will. :thumb2
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just poured one :thumb2

PS your eldest knows his older brother Iain
 
Its becuase you care :thumb

I lost a close cousin to an RTA in 1989, much the same as you theres never really a week goes by without a wee thought :beerjug:
 
You started early Kimmel:D

I cannae remember the day o the week nevermind any anniversaries:eek

Raise a glass of Veno's tae him:thumb2
 
Uinneag said:
You started early Kimmel:D

I cannae remember the day o the week nevermind any anniversaries:eek

Raise a glass of Veno's tae him:thumb2
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Better than that: I've raised a hot toddy (minus the honey and hot water) :beer:
 
Ronno said:
A good mate was killed in an RTA in 1973. He was only 18. I still keep in touch with his family and think of George often. The anniversary of his death was two days ago.

I've been a bit fluey and off work and this is the only reason that I can think of. But I forgot about his anniversary. Totally. I'd remembered earlier in the week and then on Wednesday, it slipped my mind. The first time ever.

I don't suppose that it'll make much odds to George but I feel really guilty.

How daft is that? :blast
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dont beat yourself up about it , im sure your mate would have told you your an old fart whos minds slipping away:augie


raise a glass to him mate, and we all will with ya:beerjug:
 
chad said:
dont beat yourself up about it , im sure your mate would have told you your an old fart whos minds slipping away:augie


raise a glass to him mate, and we all will with ya:beerjug:
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Slainte :beerjug:
 
Ronnie
I know how you feel..... I have memories of several mates, all of whom are often in my thoughts.

Tonight I was buying some vino and spied minarure Jagermeister bottles.

Have never tried the stuff, but bought it cause of the advertisements in the SS.

I'm just about to toast your pal with my first Jagermeister!
 
Funny how important things can slip from your mind after many years, leaving behind a bit of guilt when you finally remember.

I forgot a date last year for the first time in 25 years, I felt bloody awful when I remembered, but, as others have said the people involved would probably tell me to stop being such a sentimental twat.
 
Good friend of mine died 5 years ago from a brain tumour, only 32 and a top lad, remember the first anniversary of his death, several of us stood round his grave, in middle of November, it was bitterly cold, windy and raining, many tears were shed and after a while standing there in silence, cold and wet, one of the lads said,

"The bast--- could have died in August", lightened the mood somewhat, he would have been laughing at that himself.
 
neil 23 said:
"The bast--- could have died in August", lightened the mood somewhat, he would have been laughing at that himself.
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Its funny how you remember comments like that at sombre occasions.

At my Dad's funeral of his ashes years ago I remember the minister saying

"Ashes to ashes, dust to dust" and then I heard my Gran in a quiet voice say "and if God dosn't take you, the Devil must" :D Never did find out what the minister's finishing line was.

When my brother phoned me around 3am yesterday morning to tell me my Mum had passed away at the hospice he asked me if he should go straight in to the Hospice. I said he would be as well waiting to the morning as they would only have a skeleton staff on :blast
 
skyenet said:
Its funny how you remember comments like that at sombre occasions.

At my Dad's funeral of his ashes years ago I remember the minister saying

"Ashes to ashes, dust to dust" and then I heard my Gran in a quiet voice say "and if God dosn't take you, the Devil must" :D Never did find out what the minister's finishing line was.

When my brother phoned me around 3am yesterday morning to tell me my Mum had passed away at the hospice he asked me if he should go straight in to the Hospice. I said he would be as well waiting to the morning as they would only have a skeleton staff on :blast
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JFYI!

Usually it would be:
"...earth to earth - ashes to ashes - dust to dust, doing so in the sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life through our Lord Jesus Christ; who died, was buried, and rose again for us.":chuck

Sometimes, if I'm not paying full attention, the lyrics of a certain David Bowie song fleetingly cross my mind, particulary so if the deceased has been a user... :eek:

Ronnie, its all part of our make up. Somehow we just miss people, and we build into our heads that we have to do something that allows us to remember them. That coping mechanism, the keeping of memories etc, is what affects our mind and makes us feel guilty... Take care - your about as normal as the rest of the people I know!:D
 
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