A Personal Blow

[Deleted account rno]

My cousin Bert lost his wife Jay at the weekend. She had a brain anurism during a holiday in Majorca last week and fell into a coma. Air ambulance flew her home at the weekend and Bert and his family then made the heartbreaking decision to switch off her life support machine in Ninewells Hospital. Knowing Jay, that's what she would have wanted done.

She was a great person. Really warm and friendly. Although she came originally from Glasgow, she and Bert moved back to Blairgowrie in the ealy 70's to bring up their family. She was a real Matriarch and fiercely proud Mum and Gran. The term "character and a half" could have been penned with Jay in mind, as could "she calls a spade a spade" (although often Jay would call it a "fukin shovel" ) I loved being in her company and you knew exactly where you stood with her.

She was a self taught furniture restorer and had a real nack for picking up antiques.

One of my favourite memories of Jay is when she told me that her son Mark (who's a very successful architect and property developer) after the birth of his firstborn had sold his Ferrari and bought a more family orientated Porsche (a "Canyon" according to Jay ). She often drove Mark's cars and she told me "Thank feck. Yon Ferraris are murder tae drive wi' heels on"

I'll really miss her and her pearls of wisdom. I know my life is much richer for having known her.

Jay Wilson RIP.

 

[brassmonkey001]

Sorry for your loss, she sounds a character all right.

 

[Deleted account 220427002]

That's an awful thing to happen to someone you're close to... seems just so unfair

 

[ianboydsnr]

My wife suffered the same 3 years ago, fortunatly she survived, she went a little more cranky and still has memory problems, but she was very lucky and a lot are not, sorry for their loss.

 

[richie]

A friend of mine had an anurism two years ago and survived.... But I don't know if she is happy with how she survived...

Sorry not too eloquent but hopefully you'll get my drift.

We are all getting older and the older we get the more we hear stories like this.

Another friend of mine 82 years old died on Sunday. After a third bout against cancer. He had already a triple by pass, and one lung removed. It never seemed to stop him though and only last year he took his Peugeot 406 to Iceland and drove around for a month sleeping in his car to save money.

So RIP to all the nice people who have left us

 

[Deleted account rno]

she sounds a character all right.

Although very sad, I can still smile just now thinking about some of her stories.

My cousin Bert is an accomplished musician and he had a C & W band in the early 80's that supported Johnny Cash at a concert in Glasgow (I think in Glasgow anyway). Jay got to meet the great man at an after gig party and she told me in her strong Glaswegian accent that "He wiz a terrific fellie". He must have been cause Jay was no sycophant or easily impressed stargazer...at another gig that Bert played support at (I now forget the artist but he was well known), Jay told me that "he wiz an arsehole and I telt him that." I don't think Bert was asked to play support at any further gigs on the tour

 

[Uinneag]

Sad loss Ronnie better tae have ken't her

 

[roddy]

feel for you at this time Ronno, I know someone how has just gone through something similar.

you have my sympathy for Bert and his family at this time, it some how feels harder when someone goes suddenly.

 

[robmack]

Sorry for your loss Ronnie,A know only too well how yae feel.

 

[boatman]

aye ronnie am sorry to hear of your loss
these things seem to be more prevelant than you would hae thought its the way my uncle went a wee while back an it dragged on fr weeks.It wis awe very disstressin fr the family only 51 (nae drink n nae fags)

so we,ll ride oor bikes
n we,ll hae some drinks
and we,ll go bike hols
and generally try to do whit makes us happy

cos thirs nae guarantees n its no a rehersal!!!!!!!!
ronno

 

[Deleted account 210516001]

Life seems to enjoy dealing sh*t hands every now and then. Keeping great memories alive is a great way of fighting back.

Sorry

 

[STUBBS]

sorry to hear of your loss

 

[G.C.]

Thanks for telling us Ronno.
It helps keep all the shitty wee niggles in perspective.

Been away all day seeing my dad, he’s not been well and has spent some time in hospital recently. He was chuffed to bits that we all made it down to see him. We are all reassured that it isn’t as bad as we thought.
I know you know what I mean. I’m tired and this isn’t reading right.


She sounds like she would have been right good crack, you are a better man for knowing her.

 

[Aidan1150]

Sorry to read of your loss Ronno.

 

[Ash]

my warmest thoughts are with you and your family Ronno.
your words paint a picture of a fine lady

 

[skyenet]

Life seems to enjoy dealing sh*t hands every now and then.

Sorry to hear the sad news but glad everybody is left of great memories of her.

Its been about a generation since we had any loss in our small family, when my gran and her two sisters all passed away within a matter of a few years. I know history will repeat itself with my mother and her two sisters. They are many miles away but I do make the effort to keep in touch.

Have lost a few friends and work colleagues in the last few years through cancer. There is nothing more precious than our health

Iain

 

[Deleted account rno]

Appreciate the posts, folks. It's the funeral tomorrow morning. I bet there's a few good tales at the Eulogy.

 

[Deleted account rno]

Appreciate the posts, folks. It's the funeral tomorrow morning. I bet there's a few good tales at the Eulogy.

The funeral was a happy celebration of Jay's life. Her daughter Anna bravely recited a poem for her mum and then said words to the effect of "if it's anectdotes you want to hear we'll be here all day. Speak to me later: I've got hundreds." Quality.

PS The Minister wasn't Rev Chuck but he must log onto here. He described Jay almost word for word as in my original post although he substituted "she didn't suffer fools glady" for "a fukin shovel".

 

[skinnersscotch]

My sympathies are with you. And at times like this you always think of something you wish you'd said.

 

[neil 23]

Sorry to hear about your Aunt Ronno, having lost my Dad recently can guess how youre feeling, take care