is it me??

[lofthopper]

just thought i would ask the question, does anybody else get constant grief about the time and attention given to both on and off my GS? She came with me to altberg at richmond to get boots (but didnt because i couldnt get past the instep of the design i wanted) all was ok and fine to spend £150.

talk about going to heinrich gerikch for some new gloves, world war three!!

and i know her been married 30 odd years!! born to suffer for the cause i suppose any tricks or hints ? anything legal considered!

 

[Packer]

Jealousy is a dreadful thing. Imagine feeling threatened by what is possibly the most ugly machine ever conceived

Wait until your bike maintenance plans are on hold for want of parts etc. but don't mention this.

Just say "I thought it would be good if I took you out for a (insert meal, film, theatre or whatever she enjoys)"

Just don't let her see the parts arriving and putting 2 + 2 together otherwise it'll be

 

[MMC]

I never understand this "she won't let me..." thing.

We have separate bank accounts, spend or save as we wish, and do our own things. Sometimes we spend time with each other, other times Pip's out doing her thing and I'm out riding (or in fixing the bike!). No grief, no bother. If we spend time together it's because we want to - and we're all the closer for it.

Mind you, I got a good one - if not the best Keeps encouraging me to buy new bikes!

 

[hondated]

Answer...

Lofthopper having been married 35 years I understand the problem that you are having and I think that I might have the answer.
In recent years I have managed to change my bikes fairly frequently but not without having to endure a dark period in the house where my beloved and I just grunt to each other.The way I have found to reduce this atmosphere is to gradually very gradually mention what I intend to do.This can and very often does mean months before I purchase whatever I want to.A for instance is that several months ago I reminded her who paid of the mortgage when I took early retirement and then added you do know of cause in 2010 when you retire and get your lump sum I will want to change my bike.After she had calmed down I then said I want to get a GSA1200 and showed her pictures of one on the net. Although still not that impressed with my idea at least I have made the first move.Now I just need to leave magazines out with oictures of it on the coffee table.Everything has to be done subtley.
Now thats how to deal with a big item but if it comes to smaller stuff like gloves helmets etc you need to be telling the other half how you have had your existing items are past their sell by date and for safety need to be replaced.And add wouldn't it be awful if you didn't and something terrible happened to you.This method is called pricking ones conscience and 9 times out of 10 it works.
Now wheres that latest GSA Road Test I am off downstairs to make my beloved a nice cuppa on her day off...... Am I a creep you bet. Good luck

 

[Gossy]

Lofthopper having been married 35 years I understand the problem that you are having and I think that I might have the answer.
In recent years I have managed to change my bikes fairly frequently but not without having to endure a dark period in the house where my beloved and I just grunt to each other.The way I have found to reduce this atmosphere is to gradually very gradually mention what I intend to do.This can and very often does mean months before I purchase whatever I want to.A for instance is that several months ago I reminded her who paid of the mortgage when I took early retirement and then added you do know of cause in 2010 when you retire and get your lump sum I will want to change my bike.After she had calmed down I then said I want to get a GSA1200 and showed her pictures of one on the net. Although still not that impressed with my idea at least I have made the first move.Now I just need to leave magazines out with oictures of it on the coffee table.Everything has to be done subtley.
Now thats how to deal with a big item but if it comes to smaller stuff like gloves helmets etc you need to be telling the other half how you have had your existing items are past their sell by date and for safety need to be replaced.And add wouldn't it be awful if you didn't and something terrible happened to you.This method is called pricking ones conscience and 9 times out of 10 it works.
Now wheres that latest GSA Road Test I am off downstairs to make my beloved a nice cuppa on her day off...... Am I a creep you bet. Good luck

Similar situation, kids now left (almost) home coming up 30 years married, never passed test when it was easy (1979) so did it last year, bought a cheap honda 500. I knew it was only a start, but it was sort of accepted that i'd get a bigger bike - similar to a mates.
After a few weeks of very subtle talking and me saying maybe not, she actually said "I think it would be a good thing to do", it took 5 months and as it was bought with her complete approval , can never be brought into an arguement.
As for pillion..... she's not so keen, but as I have developed a new love for all things Alpine no objection to me going there.

I big thing with us is thats its no good saying "I wish I could have....." when youre either too old or physically can't.

 

[Rushy]

Now thats how to deal with a big item but if it comes to smaller stuff like gloves helmets etc you need to be telling the other half how you have had your existing items are past their sell by date and for safety need to be replaced.And add wouldn't it be awful if you didn't and something terrible happened to you.This method is called pricking ones conscience and 9 times out of 10 it works.

That made me chuckle because I did that with a previous partner. She'd been not so much moaning more like groaning about the money i'd spent on my bike recently when I happened to notice that my local dealer had some of last years Arai's in at an amazing price, too good to miss. So , I bought one. That evening I sat in the loung cleaning my old AGV and I exclaimed;

" Oh no , thats a bummer"......

" What is says he? "

" Nothing really"...... says I .." its just the date label in my helmet sasy its nearly 5 yrs old and you are suppsed to replace them before that date for safety"

" Ooooooh , that's not good, you'd better get a new one soon then " she replies