I've got a torque wrench now, and I use it. But I've dismantled and rebuilt engines without one and never had a problem. Generally I found using the torque wrench that I was not tightening up as hard as I had done by feel. Torque figures are very dependant on thread lubrication, and the condition and lubrication of the interface between the component and the washer/bolt head. Where it really matters tightness is calculated by measuring the bolt extension.
If the OP is unsure then a few practice runs with similar size bolts would be useful- anneal the old sump washer, as said by Smug, and use it as a tester.
If the OP is unsure then a few practice runs with similar size bolts would be useful- anneal the old sump washer, as said by Smug, and use it as a tester.