The oil pressure relief valve is there to bleed away the excessive oil pressure which can happen on a cold engine. Its unlikely to open in a hot engine, so shimming just risks oil seals getting blown when the engine is cold.
OP stated his relief valve looked ok when inspected, my suggestion was a temporary means of seeing if the spring pressure was too weak. Clutching at straws really without being able to see the symptoms directly.
Agreed that an oil filter change is worth doing to eliminate the easy stuff, but the OP mentioned cutting open filters so presumably he already fitted a new filter.
Pumps create flow, restrictions create pressure. There is a lack of restriction somewhere causing a drop in pressure, it's the finding and fixing it that is difficult.